If you remove the gender commentary, this post is actually just a really great observation of how human society as a whole has been acting in general lately. It’s worse than ever before because it wasn’t as easy to act like a total troll & get away with it like we can now in the past. This is typically what it feels every time I try to have a basic convo with someone. It’s like, “Woah, woah, woah! No one is trying to start a war here. We’re simply asking you to take responsibility for the consequences of your own actions! Calm tf down already! It’s all okay! Just think more first & react less!”
Yes, our egos hate to fess up when we mess up because it’s embarrassing to make mistakes, especially publicly, or to be shown the error of our ways when we didn’t even realize that what we said or did was impacting another person so severely, but that’s no excuse to act a jerk & blame everything/everyone but ourself. This will just perpetuate the problems instead of addressing them to ensure they won’t happen again, or at least with such frequency/lack of awareness. We have to use our brains to think about our thoughts, feelings, words, & deeds, how all of these things are impacting/might impact us & others BEFORE deciding to implement them.
It still is a somewhat radical notion in modern America, but the truth of the matter is that we are fully capable of changing our thought patterns, which means that what we choose to spend time thinking about/the language we use when thinking about stuff actually will influence our behavior, feelings, & actions. We are literally shaping new worlds for ourselves to live in & project onto others at all times, so isn’t it our responsibility to try to make sure that we’re doing our best to keep them as healthy, positive, & productive as possible for all impacted by them?
Google Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (Dialectical Behavioral therapy is related, but focuses more on the emotional/interpersonal elements, but also uses a lot of CBT in it) if you’re not sure what I’m talking about. It’s beneficial & very helpful. If you change your world, the world you’re creating and projecting onto existence, you can literally change your quality of life 🙂